Basic Rules and Principles

The Golden Rule: `NO means NO!`

Anyone (yourself included) may say no at any time for any reason, without further explanation. If you`re in a situation that makes you uncomfortable Just Say No! Don`t jeopardize your joy and satisfaction with the life-style or that of your partner, by doing anything against your will. Don`t submit to guilt or pressure. Swinging is fun. Keep it that way. Disentangle yourself as quickly as possible with a firm, but gentle response. Be honest, but up-front, in order to avoid misunderstandings. Always be kind. First and foremost. it`s the proper, humane way to behave. Secondly, you may reconsider and want to party later. Keep your options open.

Everyone has been rejected at some time. If you`re rejected do not take personal offense. Keep the encounter upbeat and light. Who knows? The person who passes up the opportunity today, may want to swing with you tomorrow, or may be the key to you meeting another terrific partner!Know your own likes, dislikes, boundaries and strengths, thoroughly. Encourage and aid others in their own explorations. Keep relationships friendly and pleasant. Always propose, never impose! Swingers feel their way through encounters in more than one way. Open all channels of communication. Deal with jealousy head-on! It`s a normal, human reaction. Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then work things out. This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression. Festering jealousies are destructive. Seek Constructive remedies as soon as possible.Let your steady partner know he or she is always number one! Take time to stroke their ego. Be generous with a kiss and a smile. Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure. Always arrive together. Honor any and all prior understandings. Always leave together.

Use common sense and courtesy when you`re at a swing club, a meeting place, or someone`s house. Concentrate on being kind, thoughtful and sensitive and smile. Happiness is contagious! Respect the guidelines others set, and make your own wishes and desires clear. There should be No Surprises! If you`re Bi for example ask if the couple or single you`ve chosen has a similar interest. Likewise, if you really object to Greek or Bondage, bring it up for discussion. Once you`re all comfortable with the format, let the games begin. Before, during and after you party, pay close attention to “Body Language.” There`s more to human interaction than just sexual signals, but that`s definitely part of the picture. Enhance your romance by considering the total person. Learn to read the signs and you`ll pick up on what makes your partner comfortable, happy, excited, and ultimately satisfied. Demand absolute discretion…... And be worthy of the same!

Swinger Principles

Swinging is not simply being open about your sexual feelings and being adventurous about it. You and your partner should follow some swinging principles to ensure that your encounter is also fun and fulfilling. The following are some suggested swinging principles that you and your partner may want to use:

You and your partner should never attempt to break up a marriage.
When a date is made, always keep up to it or else give ample time of notice for changing circumstances.
It is important to keep the first meeting on a "no strings attached" basis. You and your partner should be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreed or to give an honest answer if something does not work out.
It is reminder that you never under any circumstances exercise pressure on your partner to swing.
It is suggested that you and your partner restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested individuals seeking information.
Be wise and protect the anonymity of other swingers by abstaining from unauthorized "name dropping."
For the stake of other swingers, always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.
Be smart and not to engage in any unlawful activity that would harm the reputation of other swingers as a group.
Always be friendly and warm with your swing partners. Be understanding that there is a type of emotional involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or "primary significant other."
Lastly, remember to show respect for the personal attitudes and feelings of other swingers.