Swinger Scale or Level

Within the swinging environment, we tend to see "circles"; or groups that tend to converge based upon common interests. When becoming part of a circle, we know where we are at the time, but as time goes on we may want the flexibility to change or expand circles to meet with our new and ever changing experiences. You might note that in most cases within your circle....the door is never locked for other siwnger. You may opt out of one circle and possibly enter another swinger that is better suited for your new desires. Also, note that a teepee looks like a triangle regardless of you view. This too explains the fact that in order to be a swinger....there must be at least a third party or direction aside from you and your primary partner. The following are the various levels of the Swinger Scale:

ONE SWINGER:

This is a couple that enjoys sharing sexuality at a safe distance such as over the phone or via e-mail. You may talk dirty and do things to each other by request of your "pen pal"; couple or individual.

TWO SWINGERS:

This is a couple that enjoys either being present and watching another couple or individual performs a sexual act or performing a sexual act while being watched or watching while being watched. Maybe you share a hotel room with two queen size beds right next to each other.

THREE SWINGERS:

This is a couple that has pre set rules and limits as to how far they will go with another couple or individual while sharing sexual activities. This will usually include touching outside of there primary partner. It may also include sexual massage licking and kissing....but never penetration. Usually at this level, a bond or friendship is the goal of all, and is usually not intended as a one-night stand. (Threesome)

FOUR SWINGERS:

This is a couple set aside the rules and limits as to how far they will go with another couple or individual while sharing sexual activities. This will usually includes not only touching outside of there primary partner but, It may also include sexual massage licking and kissing and even intercourse. This grade is usually with an individual or couple that has created a common bond and attraction with the intention of an ongoing relationship and friendship.

FIVE SWINGERS:

This is a couple that shares sexuality with another couple or individual to the extent that they do not have limits other than protection (condoms) as long as they are in the presents of there primary partner and usually sharing each other at the same time (threesomes or for sums). There is not expectation or obligation for long term friendships or relationships....just fun sex. This level of swinging, as in any of the swinger levels, does not rule out the possibility of a long-term relationship between any or all of the parties involved.

SIX SWINGERS:

At this level, a couple enjoys meeting people that want to have sex....Plane and simple. Attraction may or may not be important. Safety from disease is usually the only rule of thumb at this level....however, primary partners are still part of these encounters and even though they may have all the fun they want....the primaries always go home or to bed (to sleep) together.

SEVEN SWINGERS:

The grade seven is no longer considered elementary swinging....this is the hard-core swap. I'll take yours; you take mine....see you tomorrow. We find this a lot with "open relationships";. The hard part with this for of swinging is the Unknown factor of your primary. This is a topic of its own! However....there usually still needs to be somewhat of an attraction to the other individuals involved.

EIGHT SWINGERS:

This is easy....any time, any where with (almost) anyone. If this is you....please be careful!

It is very important to note that even though the swinger scale provides a base for not only determining where you are, and sharing with others were you are, but there are many variances to all of the swinger's scales above. You may find yourself somewhere in the middle. Remember....they are flexible!

So what about swinging in this society.... as we are well aware, almost all religions and most social organizations, highly frown on any such activities....even though cheating is the most common cause of demise in a failed marriage....it's almost considered "normal";. Many therapists can understand why one would cheat, but being a swinger is judged to be "BAD";! Well, at least according to our society. Contrast swinging, in which partners openly share their sexuality and expression of love in front of the one they call their primary partner, and you can see why swinging has changed and grown over the years. Imagine never cheating or having to lie to the one you love ever again! More and more couples are adding this new dimension to their intimate side of there relationship, while at the same time maintaining their conservative appearance in there work and residential community.

Maybe you have thought about what level of swinger you are....Maybe you've not thought about it to this swinger level of detail. Either way, the swinger's scale is one way for swingers to identify where their boundaries are and make it easier for other swingers to understand their relative experience and preference for involvement.

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